Ranch Wife Musings | Never the Same Again

Originally printed in the Custer County Chronicle on 9-9-2026

If you know cows, you likely are familiar with the rather bored expression a mother cow has while her 5-month-old calf is headbutting her udder. It is eloquent. In fact, it is an expression I’m pretty sure I’ve gotten good at myself. Who knew babies could nurse standing on their heads? Or that they would wake you up in the middle of the night grabbing your teeth? The sweet infant stage is over. The exact circumstance that prompted it escapes me at the moment, but last week the sentence “Life will never be the same again” ruefully escaped my lips. I will hastily add that it was humorously rueful and not bitterly so, having something to do with suddenly having a 10-month-old toddler who is now walking, signing, expressing opinions, and getting into trouble, all while flashing me a completely toothless, very gummy smile. The meek and mild infant stage is over. Very over. Life will never be the same again.

But would I want it to be?

I’ve been struck by how much of our life we spend wishing for something different than what we have, and banking on change. Better pay, a more fulfilling job, more friends, deeper friendships, a spouse, a bigger house, a new paint job, a car with better gas mileage, more opportunities to travel or recreate. So much emotional effort is spent wishing for things we don’t have, and trying to bring about very specific change, sometimes manipulating our circumstances to ensure change.

And then I’ve also been struck by how much of our life we spend pining for what we used to have (always through rose-colored glasses, I might add), bemoaning the changes we’ve been subject to. A smaller mortgage, or no mortgage, a less-demanding job that leaves more time for other things, the emotions of dating, the emotions of the honeymoon stage, more time to ourselves, more freedom, less demands on our time and effort, quieter evenings, or whatever.

Sometimes, we waste precious effort trying to prevent change that is inevitable. Sometimes, the change we are willing to receive will come only through embracing the change we are resisting.

We are comfortable with change that is convenient. We are uncomfortable with change that is not. We are comfortable with change that doesn’t ask anything more than we are willing to give up. We are uncomfortable with change that does ask more than we are willing to give up. We are comfortable with change that is comfortable. We are uncomfortable with change that is not. Comfortable change is the kind that comes with very little demand from us. Uncomfortable change sometimes requires a whole paradigm shift. It requires bending and even breaking, healing and growing, so that ten years from now you look back and say, “I’m not who I was.”

And the difference between the two? A lot of times? Our attitude.

Do we want to change? Or are we so in love with the present version of ourselves and our lives that we can’t bear to allow change to inconvenience us?

The complaints people tend to have about marriage and family generally boil down to self. You get married and suddenly another person can place demands on your time and energy. You no longer are at liberty to do what you want when you want, or fill your schedule without considering your spouse, and then you add children to the mix? Oh, boy.

We live in a self-obsessed culture. It makes sense, then, that marriage and family, institutions that are inherently inconvenient and wonderfully change-bringing, would be at an all-time low in popularity. The marriage rate has plummeted 60% in the last 60 years, the birth rate has plummeted, and the most dangerous place in the United States right now is inside a mother’s womb. Clearly, we have a crisis in the marriage and family department.

We may be obsessed with certain types of self-improvement (i.e. comfortable change), but we don’t readily commit ourselves to things that actually change us, deep inside. If something requires sacrifice, a change of priorities, a reordering of life, a giving up of self-interest, we balk.

A challenging child? A painful season of marriage? Seemingly endless sleepless nights nursing a baby? A schedule turned topsy-turvy by the needs of a wee little one? A season of want or scarcity? Years of loneliness? Disappointment? Pain or grief?

It is exactly those circumstances we tend to do our utmost to avoid. And it is exactly those circumstances that have the ability to bring about incredible change in us at a fundamental level.

A challenging child can make you a more patient person. A difficult season of marriage can create deeper love and commitment. Sleepless nights instruct you in the preciousness of someone else’s needs. Want and scarcity can drive us to a depth of gratitude we never knew before. Years of loneliness can teach the true value of friendship. Even the pain of betrayal can teach the sweetness of loyalty. Disappointment can help us learn contentment. Pain or grief can teach compassion.

I want to be a more patient person. A more loving and committed wife. I want to have a deep appreciation for the needs of others. I desire greater gratitude in my own heart. I want to be more compassionate. And I don’t want to be the same person 10 years from now that I am today.

I watch Felicity toddle around the house, watch her explore and learn and experience delight at every turn. That toothless smile, her funny little gestures and mannerisms, her baby babble, and her bubbling laughter. Her precious love. Her sense of humor. Watching her face light up when Daddy comes home. Seeing her giggle hilariously at the dogs and other animals. It is absolutely delightful.

This isn’t the life we had a year ago, or four years ago. Our schedules have shifted, our evenings look different, my routines and productivity have changed. Can you relate?

And no, life will never be the same again. But, friend…would you want it to be?

Ranch Wife Musings | Beautifully Unfinished

Originally printed in the Custer County Chronicle on August 12, 2026

Carefully kept in my possession is a nondescript box which I have jealously guarded for the better part of a decade. Possibly longer. My grandma, Loretta, was an avid quilter and the supreme domestic, having honed her skills of homemaking and handcrafts over a lifetime of peaceful industry and quiet usefulness to her husband, her five children, and her community. The beds in her house were clothed with quilts she had pieced, and knit afghans graced the arms of the chairs in the living room.

Each of her grandkids was gifted a quilt at one time or another, but my prize was the box of unfinished projects: a finished quilt top, hundreds of squares and triangles cut from old-fashioned floral cotton in a rainbow of colors, a stack of dozens of Sunbonnet Sue appliques, and three beautifully-pieced blue and white patchwork blocks, with enough extra squares to piece several more. For years, I’ve pondered what to do with all of these unfinished pieces. I’m not a quilter and genuinely dislike piecing. I’ve had plenty of ideas, though never executed any of them. Until now. I finally picked up where my grandma left off.

My old-fashioned heart has always longed for a slower way of life in a world that moves too quickly, and tangible forms of industriousness in a world that is ever less tangible. Ever since I was a child, I’ve gravitated towards those old-fashioned skills and handcrafts, from sewing to crocheting to drawing and painting to music to writing and more, taking delight in putting my hands to something and watching it take shape over hours, days, or even years. I remember entering all manner of handmade items in county fairs and in 4-H as a teenager, and having that yearly boost of excitement and competition that was fuel for the next year’s industry.

Societally, we have been conditioned to give preference to the easy way. If there is an easier way to do something, we are conditioned to assume the easy way is the best way. We avoid inconvenience. If there is a more convenient choice, we are conditioned to assume the more convenient choice is the best choice. We are a fast-food society, a next-day-Amazon-delivery society (well, not in rural Custer County, but you get the idea). In this fast-paced, convenience culture, we have seen handcrafts and homemaking go by the wayside. The shrinking entries in the open class exhibits at the Custer County Fair are suggestive of this. Why spend hours upon hours crocheting a blanket when you can buy one for a fraction of the price? Why learn to sew? Why make anything by hand when Amazon always has a cheaper option available? Why learn to paint when you can just insert a command into Chat GPT and have it spit out something that sort of looks like a painting? The gods of convenience and cheapness have led to a dearth of quality and enduringness, and a dearth in the learning and sharing of skills.

Some of my favorite childhood memories are wrapped up in this sharing and learning. I remember sitting cross-legged, knee-to-knee with a friend, crochet hooks in hand. She was righthanded, I’m lefthanded, so I learned by mirroring her. I remember the sewing class I took as a 10- or 12-year-old, sewing nothing but straight lines, the afternoon spent with a lady from my church who helped me sew clothes for an American Girl doll, and the hours my mom coached me as well, before the skill almost took on a life of its own. I remember the art class, and the writing club I started with a bunch of friends in highschool.

Unlike our digital alternate reality, which invites people into isolation disguised as connection with nothing material or real or tangible to show for it, these old skills thrive in community and are inherently social. Even if you’re learning a crochet stitch or leatherworking technique from a video tutorial, and bypassing that initial social context of the teacher and the learner, there still tends to be a very human context for that skill, as handmade items are gifted, bought and sold, passed down, or simply used to beautify one’s own home. They are real, and used, and delighted in. 

After a few scattered hours of cutting and stitching and ironing, contending with my 9-month-old’s innate desire to be held and played with, I tied a blue and white patchwork bonnet on her blonde head and the sweetness was impossible not to ponder. When Grandma was piecing those blocks, she had no way of truly knowing what they would become, or what completion would look like. But I can’t help but think she would be touched to know that her handiwork was picked up by her granddaughter and will be used by her great-granddaughter and, perhaps, a great-great-granddaughter someday. How neat is that?

What in our digital age will be enduring? What relationships are forged? What generational continuity is fostered? What will be passed down to children and grandchildren? Who is invited in?

I get it, everyone is busy. With our stupid smartphones in hand, we convince ourselves we’re busier than we truly are. Are there skills we opt not to learn or share, because of a perceived lack of time? Do we opt not to start something because we are afraid we won’t finish it, or even because we know we won’t? Maybe it isn’t for us to finish. It might be that our grandchildren or great-grandchildren will be the ones to complete or enjoy what we began. And there is something incredibly sweet and poignant about that.

I wish we were more accustomed to thinking this way. I wish we could think of more than the next month or year. I wish that when faced with a choice or an inconvenience, we could have eyes to see down the road further than the easy way out. I wish we could think more fervently of our children and our children’s children, and what we will one day leave behind. Will we be so absorbed in our own pursuits that we don’t leave room in the future for others? Or will we be so absorbed with others that we invite people in, that we invite our children and grandchildren in, and those things that we leave unfinished can be theirs to complete? I hope to leave some things, many things, unfinished. Beautifully unfinished.

Ranch Wife Musings | Life, Liberty, Happiness

Originally printed in the Custer County Chronicle on July 15, 2026

I didn’t see a single firework this year. Is that crazy? Our country celebrates her 250th birthday and I don’t see a single firework? But we are in a season of family life where naps and bedtime are pretty important, and bedtime is well before sunset. Hence, no fireworks. We did, however, enjoy some excellent smoked beef brisket and cheesecake and in our own way fully reveled in patriotic festivity. After all, it is good to live in a country so great that even the people who hate her refuse to leave.

“We hold these truths to be self-evident,” the Declaration of Independence reads, “that all men are created equal, and that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”

The pursuit of happiness. I wonder, can we even define happiness? Is it possible to define something that is so personal? What makes me happy might not make you happy. Yet, in spite of the difficulty in definition, happiness (and not just the pursuit of it) has become more or less the pinnacle right focused on in our oh-so-wise modern day, the key metric used to determine the rightness of something. Whether it is a single decision or an entire lifestyle choice, we look at it through the lens of our own self-gratification, our own comfort. Will it make me happy? If someone or something spoils my happiness, that someone or something is trampling all over my pinnacle right.

One’s definition of happiness is very much dependent on what one believes to be valuable at a core level. If you value ease, you will not value things that are hard. If you value convenience, you will not value things that are inconvenient. If you value maximizing your potential, you will not value things that stand in the way of upward progress. If you value pleasure, you will not value things that require self-denial. If you believe that that which is valuable doesn’t extend beyond the grave, you will live in a way that reflects that. If you believe that there is meaning and purpose in eternity, you will live in a way that reflects that.

On the one hand, we have those whose values propel them to get married and be faithful spouses, to have children, work hard, live within their means and be productive members of their communities. On the other hand, we have those whose values propel them to move through serial relationships without commitment, to avoid children at any and all costs, to follow any and all sexual proclivities, and to live wildly lavish lifestyles disconnected from the good of those around them. We have those whose values propel them to live generously with the long-term good of others in view, and those whose values propel them to live greedily with only their gain in view. All in the name of happiness. It shouldn’t be controversial to state that those value sets aren’t inherently equal, but alas, we live in confusing times.

If our cultural obsession with recreation, entertainment, and convenience is any indicator of the extent to which we pursue happiness, we should be seeing incredible degrees of resulting happiness. Yet loneliness is epidemic, drug use is rampant, marriages fall apart at record rates, many Americans suffer with anxiety and depression, and multiple millions plan or attempt suicide each year. Is our pursuit of happiness working? 

It seems to me that perhaps our cultural definition of happiness is toxic. Because maybe, just maybe, that’s what happens when we cherry pick parts of our founding documents and leave out the inconvenient and politically incorrect parts. We don’t have the rights of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness randomly and by chance, or without context. We have been given them by our Creator, and that Creator has laws which compel, constrain, inform and shape society and individual morality and virtue, a broad topic with which our Founders were very concerned.

They recognized that for a nation to truly enjoy life, liberty, and happiness, private virtue had to exist within individuals. John Adams famously wrote: “We have no government armed with power capable of contending with human passions unbridled by morality and religion….Our constitution was made only for a moral and religious people.” Try saying that in the public sphere today without getting tarred and feathered.

So many of the societal milestones of the last 20 to 50 years have been precisely the throwing off of the bondage of morality and religion. In some of the key moments in our history, the culture-changers really were seeing and reacting to real problems in our society that were, ironically, the result of the degradation of virtue. But rather than promote virtue, the solution was to try to remove all consequences. That’s rather backwards.  

According to our cultural definition of happiness, I should be feeling very sorry for myself right now. I set aside an exciting career to be “just a wife,” and currently spend my days in a repetitive haze of changing diapers, sweeping floors, doing dishes, and folding laundry. Some days, all I have to show for my efforts is that the baby is still alive, and the house didn’t burn down. My needs and desires, whether it is eating or showering or sleeping or social in nature, come after the needs of a tiny person who is very needy and has very specific desires. My pursuits have taken a back seat, my comfort is challenged. My. My. My. And that is the problem with so much of our cultural perspective on happiness. I am the problem. You are the problem. We are unable to see beyond ourselves.

Happiness, true happiness, cannot be separated from the “Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God,” who gave us the capacity to experience happiness in the first place, and then by rights put boundaries in place by which we are to live and which are to shape our desires and pursuits. Rather than asking, “Will this make me happy?”, the question becomes, “Will this be for my eternal good and the glory of God? Will this make me more like Jesus?”

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After long nights that are anything but restful, when I find myself wondering if I’ll ever sleep again, I open my eyes to sunlight streaming in the window and my baby’s big blue eyes and round, rosy cheeks, and she plants sloppy kisses all over my face. In a moment of heart-melting sweetness and heavenly clarity that makes me a better woman and a better human and a stronger Christian with a more deeply-felt purpose, I realize that this is life. This is liberty. This is happiness.

Roots Deep

Originally printed in the July/August 2026 issue of Down Country Roads Magazine

Summer is here. On the ranch, summer sort of slips into existence, as if it is the quiet end result of getting the spring work finished. Summer comes specifically because the spring work is done. As the spring work wraps up, the last of the calves born and the brandings and getting bulls put out and the cows out to pasture, suddenly it is summer.

Some years, summer comes as a reprieve. Busy, but with an easygoing kind of bustle: fixing some fence, putting up some hay, checking cows, watering and tending the garden, doctoring an animal or two when the need arises, watering the fruit trees, things of that nature. Plenty to do, but without the urgency of the springtime months, and with long days, long enough to accommodate the to-do lists.

But this year, a somber haze hangs drearily over the horizon, not unlike the somber haze in everyone’s thinking right now. What do you do when there is no grass? What do you do when the rain doesn’t come? The moisture-bringing storms of early June were hopeful, but it didn’t take long for the ground to crack again, and the brilliant green of the spring pastures has faded to a greyish tint in the days and days of hot, dry wind. The pines are taking on a sickly, yellowish hue, losing their emerald depth, and the fragrance of flowing sap has long since dried up. The sky looks flat and white and dingy, and the dust devils in the hayfield and the water lots are disconcerting. Dust devils, this early? One becomes very conscious of ignition sources, and fire risk.

On a good or even just a normal year, the hills and prairies would be covered over with wildflowers right now, a flower-hunter’s paradise, but this is just a different sort of year. Even the hardy perennials, like yarrow and coneflower, even noxious thistle, are struggling to do more than a couple of inches of growth, and many of those friendly little flowers like columbine and dame’s rocket and shooting star haven’t shown their faces at all.

Pastureland holds up much better than cultivated ground, in a year like this. The roots of the perennial flowers and grasses are what hold moisture and prevent erosion and give structure. Topsoil, dry and hard, is held together by those wonderful perennial root systems delving deep underground, sometimes yards down, able to tap into hints of moisture the fast-growing, fast-fading annuals can’t access, but also able to sit in dormancy. Without them, the ground would turn to sand, and easily, too. Each windy day would carry away precious topsoil. The life is in their roots. And their roots go deep.

It is years like this one that highlight both the fragility of our way of life and the resilience needed in order to survive. We can’t control the skies. We can’t make it rain. But we can steward what we have. The drought will break. Eventually, it will rain again. We pray that it would be sooner rather than later. We pray for renewal and refreshing and a good, long rain. An then we trust in a God-given design that we witness daily, but perhaps take for granted, the resilience of an ecosystem that is stewarded and then allowed to adapt as needed.

Because years like this also highlight the fragility of the world around us, not just our fragility, and how dependent it is on weather patterns and precipitation and temperature, yet is so incredibly resilient. The drought will break, and good years will come again. We’ll see the grass grow tall, sweeping our boots as we ride horseback to move cows. We’ll see the hillsides studded with wildflowers like jewels. We’ll see the tangle of wild roses along every trail and the chaos of spiderworts, all shades of purple and pink and everything in between. The coneflowers and yellow sweetclover will bloom again.

The roots are deep. The drought will break.

Ranch Wife Musings | Ranching for Profit

Originally printed in the Custer County Chronicle on June 17, 2026

At this point, I’m guessing everyone has heard enough about the lack of rain, but pretty much none of us can stop talking about it, so here I am, talking about it some more. You’re welcome in advance. In case you need your monthly update, all your friendly neighborhood ranchers are selling cows and buying hay and making it obvious why seminars titled “Ranching for Profit” exist. That’s a real seminar, by the way. You’d think it would be a given, but it isn’t.

Turns out there’s a whole Ranching for Profit school. The curriculum includes discussing “the five grazing principles that work in any environment” and “developing a business structure that works with nature’s cycles.” Nature’s cycles…as in, we average something like 4 inches of rain each year and periodically go three-quarters of a year without measurable precipitation? And I challenge anyone to come up with a failproof grazing strategy that works when at any moment you can be obliterated with tennis ball sized hail, grasshoppers the size of small rodents, raging wildfires, or the occasional “isolated tornado,” as I’ve seen forecasted a few times lately. Thank goodness it was just an isolated tornado and not a whole flock of them. Not to mention, the random hurricane-force, straight-line winds vicious enough to drive your cows all the way to Nebraska, where they aren’t faring any better and this year are actually faring considerably worse.  

I have to say, I’ve definitely wondered who first had the bright idea to ranch out here anyway. It must have been one heck of a good year to convince him.

Anyway, we have a neighbor – I’ll call him “Denys” – who could have been teaching his own Ranching for Profit classes on diversification of income if he hadn’t turned down the opportunity of a lifetime in recent years. Cows are needy animals, after all, and one of the unfortunate realities of drought is having to haul water when your dams dry up.

Well, as near as I can remember, “Denys” was offered this camel – yes, a camel – by some landowners he leased from. They were going to give it to him. Give. As in, all he had to do was transport it wheresoever he desired. Now, I’m sure if “Denys” had asked his wife, she could have figured out some way to transport said camel. Ranch wives are good at figuring out how to move odd, homeless animals closer to home, and I’m sure she would have delivered. But apparently “Denys” just turned this camel down cold. Ranchers say things like, “What would I do with a camel?” Their wives say, “Poor thing,” and home it comes.

Come to find out camels really are a novelty, and some other enterprising individual hauled the camel to the nearest sale barn and brought home somewhere in the neighborhood of $20,000 dollars.

I’d like to just sit with that for a minute.

We’re in the middle of this drought, possibly the worst drought since the Dirty Thirties, we’re hauling water and feeding hay like our lives depend on it, because they kind of do, and while everyone else is tightening their belts and shipping cows away and spending a fortune on hay, or selling down their herd, “Denys” could be sitting pretty with a herd of animals that can go 2 weeks without drinking water and giving camel rides to tourists, and selling the occasional critter at the sale barn. I mean, shucks, an adorable little bottle baby camel went for $21,000 at a sale barn in Nebraska last year. Talk about diversifying one’s streams of income.

Agriculture is an interesting way of life. Even in parts of the country where the land isn’t trying to die every two to four years, even in places where the environment is more temperate, or wetter, or the growing season is longer, agriculture as a way of life relies on factors that are entirely outside of one’s control. It is humbling. We don’t drive prices and we can’t control the cost of feed, and we for certain can’t control the weather. There are some means of predicting and planning for slips in prices or increased cost of feeding, but there is no way to accurately predict the weather, much less to control it.

It puts those of us who live and work in ag in a unique position of facing head-on the truth of Whom it is that we actually rely on. Now, it is really easy to squander the opportunity, with a woe-is-me attitude, anger or bitterness, or just general pessimism. But the American mindset of self-determination and pulling oneself up by the bootstraps starts to fall apart on years like this, when all that is left to do is pray. Which, if you believe in Someone eternal who has revealed Himself to us in His Word, is more than enough. Prayer doesn’t always bring about the material result requested, but it is a means of bringing our hearts into greater agreement with God. He is not primarily concerned with our physical, temporal destiny but with our spiritual, eternal destiny, and saints aren’t made in a trouble-free life.

Ranching may not always be profitable, in a numbers and dollar signs kind of a way. And sometimes the least profitable ranching years just might be the ones with the greatest potential for a different kind of profit, the kind of profit that Jesus talked about when He taught His followers to store up treasures in Heaven, where moth and rust (and drought and fire) can’t destroy. So, this year might be one of those where income and expenses are uncomfortably close together. But it just might be that this year the ranch will turn a different kind of profit. The kind of profit that last a lot longer.  

Ranch Wife Musings | Bearing Burdens

Originally printed in the Custer County Chronicle on May 20, 2026

Branding season is that yearly reminder of how thankful I am for the community we are blessed to live in. A lot of prep work goes into a branding, from sorting, vaccinating, and moving all the pairs to the branding pasture ahead of time, to gathering up the irons and stoves and more vaccine, to rounding up a crew of our friends and neighbors, cooking for a small army, and more. We start early and work hard, running like clockwork to get several hundred pairs gathered, sorted, and the calves vaccinated, branded, and cut, swapping stories and laughs in passing. Shoulder-to-shoulder with our neighbors we accomplish a massive task.

This year, there was a different tone, a little heavier than usual, as dry as it is, as little grass as there is, and as many cow-calf pairs are already moving. If you see cattle pots on the road, they’re loaded, and sale barns are full. It is a tough spring, record-breaking in the worst of ways. Conversation returned, again and again – how could it not? – to the drought, the lack of rain, the storms missing us, the beaten down pastures, the price of hay, the price of trucking, what to sell and when. Again and again, there was the shrug and the weary smile, and the understood “we’ll figure it out, one way or another.”  

I don’t think it is a coincidence that as we have gotten more efficient as a society, we have also gotten lonelier. As we have replaced one another with machines, we’ve suffered for fellowship. As we’ve enabled ourselves to travel further for work and church and daily life, we’ve gotten less connected with the people in our immediate vicinity. We connect with hundreds of people superficially and fail to connect meaningfully with anyone. When you remove need, connection suffers. When connection is a luxury, it tends to fall to the wayside.

There are more efficient ways to do things. Some ranches have gone to utilizing a calf table to brand, instead of ropers and wrestlers, which cuts the needed manpower substantially. Ranches in this region are still largely rope-and-drag outfits, included ours, and for that I’m thankful. And a year like this brings that into focus.

It is years like this where we need each other more, not less. In some ways, that’s counterintuitive. We branded fewer calves, and there will likely be less work to do this summer and fall, and fewer cattle to work or preg test. But when you’re facing uncertainty, it really does help to face it with other people who are also facing similar uncertainty. Knowing that you’re not the only one really does help. Knowing that other people are just as stumped over what to do next alleviates some of the stress of having to figure it all out.

We truly do need each other.

The Bible is full of commands that my former pastor called the “one anothers.” In case it isn’t painfully obvious, the “one anothers” only work if you are with one another. They are hard to accomplish in solitude.

Love one another. Serve one another. Pray for one another. Be kind to one another. Forgive one another. Submit to one another. Encourage one another. Build one another up. Seek to do good to one another. Show hospitality to one another. Can any of those commands truly be obeyed without relationships, in solitude?

And one of my favorites: Bear one another’s burdens.

The mental image is that of taking a heavy load from someone else’s shoulders so they can have reprieve, or shouldering their load with them and then carrying it together. Shoulder to shoulder, both can stand a little straighter and walk longer and carry it further.

Bear one another’s burdens. Burdens of work. Burdens of uncertainty. Burdens of care. Burdens of sorrow. Burdens of worry. Burdens of fear.

Burdens like the task of branding hundreds of calves. Burdens like wondering when and how to continue ranching when the weather seems set against it. Burdens like if and when and what to sell. Burdens like how to feed the animals you keep, and whether to try to hold out for a weather change.

Bear one another’s burdens.

This whole season is one long opportunity for burden-bearing. Ranch after ranch brands their calves, starting in late April or early May, trusting in their friends and neighbors to help bear the burden of the branding itself, but this year there is more than usual of the other kinds of burdens, the burdens of uncertainty and worry and the rest. And I’m thankful for a community that can come together around a shared task, puzzle over a shared struggle, smile, shrug, and say, “We’ll figure it out, one way or another.”

Branding day this year brought that into focus.